Marriage Counseling

Before you start marriage counseling with me, you will be asked to take this assessment. I’ve created it myself based on my experience with marriage’s challenges, opportunities, and needs. I keep the answers confidential to encourage honesty. It obviously can’t cover everything, but it gives me a good snapshot of the state of your marriage.…

Most married couples I work with say they don’t communicate well. The word “communication” gets tossed around frequently and endlessly. Amazingly, we’re never taught how to have healthy communication in a relationship. So, we do what we’ve learned in our families, which often isn’t helpful, or we just wing it. Either way is a high-risk…

In two previous blog posts I describe the first two phases of what happens when a trust is broken. They are the Discovery phase and the Meaning phase. If a couple has made it this far, it’s now time to actually attempt the trust building process. You must play the long game. I think this…

This is part two of a three part series on how a broken trust can be repaired. In a previous post, we looked at phase one – discovery. In this post we’ll discuss the meaning of what happened. In a future post I’ll address the last phase – rebuilding trust. An infidelity or deception is…

Have you ever had these feelings about your marriage? My life seems awfully boring. We’re trying but we’re stuck in the same old routine. So many things he/she does annoy me. I can’t remember that last time I had fun. I can’t imagine living the rest of my life like this. If you have, you’re…

Those who have not experienced a broken trust find it hard to believe what it feels like when it happens. It feels like an earthquake has just hit you and your relationship. Your foundation is shaking and the world as you knew it seems to be gone. The pain and hurt are bottomless. Therapist, author…