The Upside of Isolation

As I think we all know, the world has changed permanently. And with that, each of us has changed permanently as well. And no one knows what the future holds. That could be both a scary thought and possibly an exhilarating one depending upon how you feel about change. This a unique time both in…

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5 Things to Stop Right Now and Their Antidotes

Trying to Please Everyone – Please Yourself First People pleasers share a common outcome. They’re miserable. That’s because they neglect themselves. They’re so busy making others happy that they don’t even know their own needs. This obviously makes it impossible to get the needs fulfilled. How about this – meet your own needs first and…

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The Five Remembrances

How do I have meaning and purpose in my life? How do I stop worrying so much? How do I know what’s really important to me? How do I keep my focus on reality instead of delusion? These are big questions with no easy answers. One way to search for the answers is to remove…

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Stress in America

We Americans are very stressed right now. I came upon a press release today and after reading it I got my hands on the report itself. After reading that, I knew I had to share it with you. What are we stressed about? A survey taken in 2019 was just published by the American Psychological…

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The 5 Freedoms

The counselor Virginia Satir was one of the founders of the family therapy movement in the 1950’s. Her groundbreaking work on how to provide good therapy to complicated families has endured through the present day. One of the best contributions she made is called The 5 Freedoms. They represent what everyone has the freedom to…

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A Broken Trust Can be Repaired – Action Phase

In two previous blog posts I describe the first two phases of what happens when a trust is broken. They are the Discovery phase and the Meaning phase. If a couple has made it this far, it’s now time to actually attempt the trust building process. You must play the long game. I think this…

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A Broken Trust Can Be Repaired – Meaning Phase

This is part two of a three part series on how a broken trust can be repaired. In a previous post, we looked at phase one – discovery. In this post we’ll discuss the meaning of what happened. In a future post I’ll address the last phase – rebuilding trust. An infidelity or deception is…

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Did you marry the right person?

Have you ever had these feelings about your marriage? My life seems awfully boring. We’re trying but we’re stuck in the same old routine. So many things he/she does annoy me. I can’t remember that last time I had fun. I can’t imagine living the rest of my life like this. If you have, you’re…

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A Broken Trust Can Be Repaired – Discovery Phase

Those who have not experienced a broken trust find it hard to believe what it feels like when it happens. It feels like an earthquake has just hit you and your relationship. Your foundation is shaking and the world as you knew it seems to be gone. The pain and hurt are bottomless. Therapist, author…

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How to Spot a Possible Addiction

If you’re concerned that you or someone you know may have an addiction to drugs, alcohol or a problem behavior, it can be difficult to know for sure. There is a shorthand test that can help make this determination. It’s about applying the three C’s. I’m not talking about the three C’s of addiction recovery,…

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