Posts by Mike Ferraro

Blended Families Are Tricky

Imagine a family with parents, stepparents, children, stepchildren, siblings, step-siblings, ex-spouses, ex-partners, the spouses and partners of ex-spouses and ex-partners, and extended families all the way around. Is your head spinning yet? A blended family can have some or all of the above. And, as all of you living in blended families know, having a…

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Which Stage Of Change Are You In?

In the substance abuse field, there is something called motivational interviewing. I use it in my work with people having drug or alcohol problems. One of the first questions I ask someone is, “What are you motivated to do?” I don’t try to persuade you to follow some plan or program. Because you won’t do…

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Having A Safe Conversation

Most married couples I work with say they don’t communicate well. The word “communication” gets tossed around frequently and endlessly. Amazingly, we’re never taught how to have healthy communication in a relationship. So, we do what we’ve learned in our families, which often isn’t helpful, or we just wing it. Either way is a high-risk…

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The Courage of Bipolar People

Imagine that you were told you might need medication and psychotherapy for the rest of your life. And that the side effects of your medication may be difficult to handle. And if you didn’t do that, your life may get out of control. That, without any treatment, you will have problems with friends and family,…

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For Unmarried Couples Living Together (Or Planning To)

How times have changed. I know you’ve noticed it, but here are some statistics. According to the U.S. Census, for all young adults aged 25 to 34 in 1970, 82% of them were living with a spouse. By 2018 this had dropped to 40%. Also, for the same age group, less than 1% were living…

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Rethink Your Job And Career

A job and career are not a compartmentalized chapter of a person’s life. A career is inextricably linked to life and is an integral part of it. Career issues that arise for people can easily be rooted in your personal life and your personal life may have career implications. You must be aware of the…

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Your Pandemic Trauma

You have been traumatized by COVID-19. For the last two years, you have experienced a constant overwhelming threat. Everyone on the planet has been affected. How has it affected you? It’s been like a long-term natural disaster. Imagine the chronic stress of living in a hurricane for two years. And we can’t make sense of…

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Are you hooked on social media?

Social media sites are not your friend. They want to hook you and they want you to stay hooked. They use every psychological trick they can to make you think you have control when you really don’t. Our “always on” culture is toxic. We are hyper-focused on doing instead of being. We feed into the…

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Strengthen Your Relationship

In your relationship, do you find yourselves: Repeating the same fight over and over again with seemingly no hope for resolution. Losing interest in your partner and heightened curiosity in some outside person. Anxious and jealous because one partner is trying to be more independent than the other. Doubting whether the relationship will actually last…

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